After our story aired on Fox 9 News this week, a viewer wrote to me struggling with how someone will ever love a single mom of two children with special needs.
I responded by telling her about a conversation I had a couple of years ago with a single dad of two children who asked me, “Who would ever want to re-marry me? I have too much baggage.” My reply to him was, “I wouldn’t call what you bring to the table baggage…I would call them blessings.”
I went on to explain that he had much to offer a new relationship. In fact, my philosophy is that those who have been severely disappointed by life know how to love more deeply. We know not to take simple things for granted. We understand that a relationship is tough work. We get that no one is perfect and each day is a new day to try again. We see each day as a treasure in a life that is temporary. We know what it means to be self-less instead of selfish in a relationship. We learn to respect and love life in a brand new way. Who would not want to be loved by someone who knows these things?
Those are the relationships worth waiting for–to be with someone who will accept all of the pieces of your life.
I was single for 5 years when I met Steven. I never thought I would meet someone who would accept my package…my blessings. Ever. I had to get to a point where I was okay on my own. If Jordan, Maddi and I had to spend the rest of our life just the three of us, I had to find joy in the fact that we had each other. What I found is that love comes back in numerous ways…in ways we don’t expect.
Ask yourself today if you view your life with baggage or with blessings. Ask yourself today how you can change the way you see life in order to be open for life’s unexpectable love.
