"Nobody has things just as he would like them. The thing to do is to make a success with what material I have. It is a sheer waste of time and soulpower to imagine what I would do if things were different. They are not different." -Dr. Frank Crane
I heard this week that loss defines you. If that is the case, than I am defined. In fact, each day that I progress in my new life without my spouse, I discover more of who I am. I trust I am right where I am supposed to be. How many people can honestly say they are in that place? Maybe not many, as it isn’t an easy conclusion to make on one’s life – especially when life has changed from what we prefer it to be.
All that said, I can’t sit by and wait for life to get better. This is what I have. I am convinced to use it in order to make sure I live my life instead of simply watch it pass by. I want to contribute to something bigger than myself and be a participant not an onlooker. It matters to me. The small fact that I want to matter.
I cannot believe that the purpose of life is to be happy. I think the purpose of life is to be useful, to be responsible, to be compassionate. It is, above all to matter, to count, to stand for something, to have made some difference that you lived at all. -Leo Rosten