"If I could mend your heart…I would weave together the ragged edges of your threadbare heart -and soothe your pain – your shock and disbelief. I would invite you to touch your sorrow and feel your feelings and not pretend to be strong or capable or composed." -Mary Farr
I think the best thing we can do for someone who is hurting is to let them hurt. Instead of supplying answers (which often there aren’t any) or filling the silence with nervous chatter or casting advice in hopes to be helpful, our best service is to simply listen. And if we must say something, I think we could simply say, "This really hurts." Call it what it is. This is the only way around the pain. Speaking the truth.